It's been many years since I read The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, however I still remember how important the concept of knowing and understanding how we each give and receive love is integral to our relationships. When I received my March blog topic from my sister Brenda, I clicked over to the 5 Love Languages website to refresh my memory and take the quiz to determine my love language.
The love languages are (1) words of affirmation, (2) acts of service, (3) receiving gifts, (4) quality time, and (5) physical touch. My quiz results show that acts of service is my primary love language, indicating that I feel most loved when someone does something for me. For example, it makes my heart happy when Robbie empties the dishwasher or cooks supper or buys groceries. Lucky for me, he does many acts of service every week! [And, of course, he is always a good sport when I ask him to do something like jump online and take the 5 Love Languages Quiz - his two top love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation.]
I have to admit that I was a little surprised by my result as I remember that the results from years ago showed my primary love language to be words of affirmation (which is now third on my list after quality time). So, it seems our love language can change over time.
Obviously we receive and give love in all five of the languages, but knowing and understanding your own primary language and that of your spouse can have a huge positive impact on your relationship as you choose to show love in the language that most speaks to each other. Thanks, Brenda, for challenging me to write on this topic and remember the importance of showing love to others in the way they need it most!
Have you read this book? What is your love language?